TikToker fired for accommodation for disabled people, insulted by her husband


A woman on TikTok says she was fired from her job after asking for accommodations for her ADHD and autism, and her husband called her “incompetent.”

Abby, known as @disabledanddivorced on TikTok, shared tapes of her husband verbally abusing her about the situation in a series of three TikToks.

“My husband says I sabotaged myself because he didn’t understand,” Abby wrote in the caption of the first TikTok.

After her husband, whom she seems to have divorced, called her “incompetent,” Abby replied, “Yes, it’s like I’m autistic.”

“You are incompetent for everything except for work,” her husband said. “But you can’t just put your head down and do it.”

Viewers were saddened by Abby’s husband, but reassured Abby that she shouldn’t stay with someone who treats her that way.

“He actually thinks you are incompetent and he would still think so whether you were fired or not,” one viewer commented. “You shouldn’t be with someone who sees you like that.”

Another TikToker said, “People who don’t have ADHD / ASD don’t have a clue how hard it is. They think we don’t care when in reality all we do is obsessively worry.

Abby’s second TikTok shows Abby defending herself by saying, “I’m not fired because I’m incompetent.” But her husband always insisted that was the reason.

A third TikTok shows Abby calling her husband to always tell him to lower his standards, as her husband says he can’t be the person she needs him to be. In a perhaps mocking voice, her husband replied that she “pushes everyone away” because of her standards.

“That’s fine. I’m not going to do that – it’s absurd of you to ask,” Abby said. “If you can’t live up to my standards, you can’t be in my life. ”

Several viewers applauded Abby for not backing down, saying she deserved happiness on her own terms. Others said her husband didn’t seem to understand boundaries or respect.

“Looks more like he doesn’t respect your limits,” commented one viewer.

Another wrote: “Emotional manipulation at its best. ”

Most viewers could agree that Abby deserves a better job and a better husband, but some have also said she should sue her employer for ignoring her disability. If Abby was fired just for asking for disability accommodations, she might be able to take legal action.

The Americans with Disabilities Act, which became law in 1990, prohibits discrimination against persons with disabilities in all areas of public life, including jobs, schools, transportation, and all public and private places open to the public. . The purpose of civil rights law is to ensure that people with disabilities have the same rights and opportunities as everyone else.

Private employers, state and local governments, employment agencies, labor organizations, and labor-management committees are all included in ADA regulations, according to the US Equal Employment Commission.

It is unclear who Abby’s employer was, and Abby did not immediately respond to the Daily Dot’s request for comment.

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* First published: Sep 18, 2021, 10:21 a.m. CDT

Cecilia Lenzen

Cecilia Lenzen is a journalism student at the University of Texas at Arlington and a freelance reporter for the Daily Dot.

Cecilia Lenzen

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